The Day My Life Changed

    My wife and I had been married for around a month, and she had just moved into the house that I was living in before she discovered what had happened. The day my wife discovered that I had cheated on her started out as a normal day. I went to work and she was still looking for a job while being at home just cleaning it and keeping it organized. As work went on a buddy of mine asked if I could give him a ride to the airport. During the drive I got a phone call from my wife asking whose name was on a piece of paper she had found, hearing this my heart dropped into my stomach and my throat kind of tightened up and I wasn’t able to talk on the phone.Driving home my mind was racing, because I had been lying to her for so long that I didn’t know what to do now that I have been caught. I thought about how I could keep lying, but I knew it was time to stop. After arriving home I found that my wife was not there. I called her quite a few times before she finally called me and told me where she was and that she had gone for a walk to clear her head, and of course to cry a bit. I picked her up and when we got home I told her everything that happened. After telling her everything I will never forget her reaction, the amount of tears yet calmness in our conversation. After that conversation and for a week she stayed at a family-friends house until deciding to come back to the house where I lived. After moving back in with me, she slept on the couch and I slept on the bed even though I tried to get her to switch with me, she wouldn’t, by the way our house was a 400 square feet studio. After a week of that, she made up her mind to forgive me and stay with me, but that came as a joyous shock to me because I was ready for her to leave and not turn back. After forgiving me and coming back home she said we needed to do marriage counseling which I humbly and joyfully agreed to. Before we started counseling though I had already started doing daily devotionals with my Bible, because it is a step for me to become a better man. Devotionals are a great step for any Christian to get closer to God, because you can find a devotional that covers any topic you need. Now, after taking initiative and starting to grow myself from being a broken man, we started counseling. Our first meeting went great for the both of us because it gave us someone that knew what to ask us and help us continue on the path we had chosen. During the meeting our counselor asked us to rate our marriage from 1-10 and of course our numbers were quite low. She was a 1, and I was a 4 but he understood and gave us homework to do as a couple, our homework was to sit facing each other, holding hands for 10 minutes without talking. It was actually one of the hardest things to do because we wanted to say something, but for a quiet 10 minutes it was very refreshing. We met with the counselor once a week for a few weeks up until the counselor told us that we should see how we do if we take a week off,  and during that time my wife had gotten a job and we were beginning to move a few hours from where we had been living. With all that going on you can only imagine the stress that it was for the both of us trying to mend our marriage and go into full move out mode. After moving to our new place it was a great fresh start for the both of us and it helped us move on to another step in rebuilding our marriage by creating new memories to replace our old ones. That brings us to the present and that’s when I decided that people need to hear my story and see healing is possible mentally and physically, and I am going to take you on this journey with me.

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